Accept without conviction
We return to the plot of the film. The next significant moment is how a woman shows a man his misses. She does it very correctly – hard, but without any condemnation. She accepts a man with all his weaknesses and shortcomings – she does not judge him, she does not laugh at him, she does not try to rise, humiliating him. She really wants to help him fix these blunders.
And at the same time, there is no maternal indulgence in her – she remains a woman who has given herself in the hands of this man. One does not interfere with one another – she is responsible for her choice and does not require a man to be somehow different. She only helps him to do what he wants – to become stronger and freer.
He constantly receives psychological cuffs from her, but this does not demean him, because she does not even try to humiliate him, she tries to help him with all her might. Why should a woman humiliate her man – to be next to a stupid, miserable creature? And who will benefit from this?
Learning to accept a person is the most difficult and most important task in a relationship. This is the foundation without which no lasting relationship can be, and this is the basis that will be enough, even if everything else goes awry. But this is also the most difficult. Look in the mirror – can you accept without any reservations at least this person?
On the mistakes – learn
Allow to make mistakes
The next important point, which is perfectly shown in the film, is how a woman allows a man to make a mistake. She knows in advance that a decision made by a man will lead to a loss, but, nevertheless, allows a man to get a negative experience. He loses HER money, but her intervention is limited only by an unobtrusive warning of a possible error.
This is very different from how women (and mothers and friends) usually react. It is believed that to warn a person against mistakes is the highest manifestation of caring for a loved one. However, in practice, such care turns out to be nothing more than a disservice. A person is deprived of the opportunity to get his own experience and learn something; instead, he only strengthens his own doubts and fears of the difficulties of life.
Women have a well-developed sense of possible danger, and the woman’s task is to warn a man about them. But the final decision should still be behind him. A man should make the decision himself and himself get the result that he gets. Even if it will be the most stupid mistake, but for him it is the only opportunity to learn something.
A man, a child, a friend should be allowed to make mistakes and bear responsibility for them – this will be a manifestation of love and care, and not to save them from pain and trouble at any cost.