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Man and woman

When a man talks about women’s subordination, for women it always causes a grin – “Aha, Right!” And this is not surprising. Even in order to simply think about this option, a woman needs to step over herself – and few are ready for this.

In general, it turns out funny. Those who agree with the latest articles do not really need these articles, they are already understood all this from their own experience. And those who understand the writing would be very worth it, do not want to understand. It turns out an empty air shake.

Here in the comments there is a dispute between the two camps – those who have already understood everything for a long time, and those who flatly refuse. Well, a person changes only when he is ready for it.

Well, in order to balance the situation a bit, I suggest to get acquainted with the women’s opinion on this issue. Initially, this text was published on the women’s forum, where, together with Yana, we conducted a psychological section.

Yana’s appeal to women:

As long as the male psychologists didn’t stop at all about the proposal for women to become humble, and did not devalue them as specialists just because it hurt someone’s life, I’ll write the women’s side about what they were trying to say.

As we all know, men are brought up by women and for women, with a constant need for consolation, fear of punishment and a constant sense of duty … A man owes everything: his mother — because she gave birth to it (fulfilling her desire); that she allows herself to be fucked (since we have long since sex from mutual pleasure turned into a subject of bargaining and manipulation), he must be a man (no one explains how it is), he must support his family, earn money, do hard work make a career (and Nache I will be considered insolvent), he must love, take care of a woman, and fulfill her wishes, etc. Imagine yourself what can happen in their soul …

And women, getting these weak, cowardly, avoiding any responsibility of men, with a lot of fears and self-doubt, instead of teaching him not to be afraid, to support and grow up his masculinity, start to demand more from him, to crush, to be offended, in general , “Pin down lying” …

A woman, not trusting a man, begins to fight with him for power, she herself takes on all the tasks, solving problems, taking responsibility for making a decision, and then – again herself – begins to be offended that he is a goat and does not want to do anything …

Calm down, step back from the power in the relationship, let him take all the decisions and bear responsibility for them, learn to say “yes” to your man, learn to sincerely trust him and you will get a real man, adult and responsible … even if he makes a mistake, accept it as given, and instead of blaming him, say: “nothing terrible (after all, he is already so hard), we will survive and correct the mistake.” Feeling supported in you, he will find support in himself and will stop shifting all responsibility on you, and will begin to appreciate in Chez opinion and to listen, and not resist a priori …

From my own experience I will say that having encountered such submission for the first time in my life, a man loses his head – he literally tears off the roof. So be sure that you will get for all the already accomplished mockery of him … 🙂 He is about to “try for strength” your determination. It looks like this: “But if I’m still throwing it away like this, surely she will not be offended and will continue to treat me well?”. but if you are confident enough in yourself and understand what is happening to him, then it is all a matter of time. And then the relationship goes to a completely different level, where there is no offense, manipulation, where everyone is responsible for himself and for his internal state, where there are no quarrels and you can always agree … And this does not mean that someone has more rights, man and woman go through life together hand in hand, caring for each other not only in material terms, but also in the spiritual …

But enough about men, let’s talk about what prevents us, women, from “giving in” to a man. And this is just our self-doubt …

A self-sufficient woman cannot lose her dignity by “submitting” to a man. because its self-esteem does not depend on the surrounding world … Therefore, all statements that “this is below women’s dignity” speak only about the insecurity of women in themselves … All women’s “pride” is only a cover for sore spots and self-doubt. That is why submission to a man is, first of all, the acceptance of a woman herself, because self-perception should not depend on what someone thinks about us and whether our desires are fulfilled.

The relationship of a healthy woman with the world is so harmonious that there is no difference in what is going on in it at all. If something does not suit, then it does not become a problem and a cause for insults, it is just a reason to change the situation or come to terms with it.

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