Take care of each other and your relationship
When you buy a new car, do you arrange your personal crash test for it? No, you blow dust from it, polish it, refuel it with the best gasoline, take it to the best service center for diagnosis. You take care of it, but do not test it for durability and do not check how much gasoline can be diluted so that it can still start. So why do we approach the other person and the relationship with him differently?
Why is it considered normal to tease and provoke each other? Why does playing on one’s nerves cause so much childish joy? To offend a person is a simple matter, but why? Just for your own satisfaction? Why test relationships for strength? To make sure that you can break anything?
Every joke and irony is a manifestation of aggression. In its pure essence, this desire to hurt – just like that, for the sake of entertainment. So the next time you want to make fun of a loved one, think about why you need it. Do you really want to hurt him? So it may be better to end the relationship, rather than mock him?
When psychologists communicate with each other, they can afford to tease each other and specifically poke a finger at sore spots – in order of training and professional mutual assistance. But for people who want to just save valuable relationships, such games are completely irrelevant.
Do not touch the sore spots of each other without a special invitation. None of us is perfect and we all have weaknesses. But using them to hurt or get your way is the last thing. Play honestly, take care of relationships – they bring you joy, so why break them yourself?
Why in normal relationships so little concern for each other? Why does any help happen from a sense of duty or guilt, and not from a desire to take care of a loved one? Yes, I really want to relax and have fun for free, and this is only prevented by upbringing and mutual resentment, because of which even less I want to strain.
But after all, it is possible to strain yourself of free will – from a good respect for the person. Not to please and receive gratitude or reciprocal service, not to meet the requirements of education, but only because you will be better off if the person close to you has the strength to spend time together for something more exciting. by occupation.
Why do you wash the car? For her? No, for myself! So try to wash a loved one (in any sense) – not for him, but for yourself. We care about dogs, we care about cats, we even care about fish, but we don’t want to take care of a loved one. He is a man – he can take care of himself!
Take care of each other. Take care of each other. Not out of a sense of duty, not because it is written about this in an intelligent article, but because IT IS IN YOUR SAME INTERESTS. Direct your egoism in a constructive direction. Take care of the well-being, health and comfort of a loved one, and he will take care of you – pure pragmatism. Learn to give, not just demand and take. And stop bargaining already. Both!