For whom women dress up?
All modern psychology began with the discovery that a person from the inside may not be at all what he is without. Poorly perceived motives, desires, hopes and tendencies affect a person’s behavior much more than this could be imagined. The belief that conscious control is able to overcome internal currents and act against them, in practice, is completely inconsistent – the inner and deep is always stronger and always wins, because the inner is the foundation for the outer, and not vice versa. And it is the inner content that characterizes a person most accurately. No matter how hard anyone tries to portray something different from himself, no matter what fairy tale he tells about himself, he always remains what he is from the inside.
For example, a respectable citizen, who has never yet crossed the generally accepted limits of decency, discovers that in a strange way he likes scenes of violence in horror films. What does this say about him? Probably the fact that it has some kind of built-in predisposition to cruelty. Perhaps he never realizes it fully, but there is a corresponding trend in it.
And what if scenes of violence cause him deep disgust and violent condemnation? Does this mean that this person is kind in his soul, and that is why such a strong protest against cruelty arises in him? Actually, no, it does not. This only indicates the presence of a serious internal conflict, which could not have arisen if the person did not have the same built-in tendency towards cruelty, which he is forced to keep under control with the help of severe condemnation. In the end, the criterion of the presence of a particular predisposition is not the direction of the emotional reaction, but the fact of its occurrence.
And who is he then? A kind person, because he tries to control himself? Or is it a villain, because there is something in it that is why you have to restrain yourself? Isn’t that really kind, who has no evil impulses at all? Not every gun shoots, but every gun is a device created to shoot. And if it has never been fired, does it cease to be an instrument of destruction? And if an evil person never offended anyone (this does not happen, but let’s say), can he be considered good?
Here, of course, there is something to discuss, but for now let us dwell on the fact that internal preferences and predispositions are taking place and cannot be taken out of the brackets even if they manifest themselves extremely rarely. And, even if a person manages to control himself all his life, it doesn’t change anything about who he really is.
But even if you put aside repressed and poorly understood trends, the picture remains the same – a person is best characterized by his desires and preferences. It is in them that the essence of every single human soul is revealed. Man is what he desires. And so he is aware of his desires or not, is not so important.
If a person likes gambling, what does that say about his character? Probably what he likes is risk and thrill. But what if he cannot resist them and squander his salary for salary in the gambling halls? Probably, this also says something about him – for example, about the irrational hope of a miracle and the general infantilism of his consciousness.
From each large and small desire, it is possible to draw some conclusion about a person’s internal priorities, his motives and tendencies. In order for a person to like something, to strongly want something, a corresponding not fully realized tendency should be laid in it. And if a person likes something, it means that something in it resonates with the subject of sympathy – something that breaks out of it and seeks its realization.
So for whom do women dress up?
Women often reassure themselves by trying to look good not for men, but for themselves. “Treat yourself!” Advise fashion magazines. And this, of course, is great, but with whose eyes do women look at themselves? And putting themselves in order, on whose taste they evaluate themselves – male or female? And even when a woman seems to be dressed up for herself, is it not a criterion of attractiveness whether men’s gaze lingers on her or not?
And now we turn on the logic. (1) It is very likely that women dress up specifically for men, (2) they do it all the time, (3) they do it everywhere, and (4) it has always been a part of human culture. What would all this mean?
This is probably what works! Women want to be attractive to men and do exactly what works every time. They show men not strength, intelligence, and a hard character, but precisely what they are so helplessly greedy for – their femininity. And it really works! Men are hopelessly driven by feminine beauty, sensitivity, soulfulness and sexuality, and it is quite natural that women use this lever all the time.