Do not regret
There are some more interesting examples in the film of how a woman can help a man grow up, but let them remain for you to train your own observation.
And the last thing I want to draw attention to is how a woman helps a man to stop feeling sorry for himself and overcome his fear. From this it all begins and it ends. Fear and self-pity are the main enemies of a man. And in overcoming them a woman can either be a great helper or a great hindrance.
With some reservations, you can even say this – only in a relationship with a woman a man can overcome self-pity. If fear is something a man can cope with himself, then a woman is needed to defeat pity.
The fact is that self-pity is formed as a continuation of the model of relations between mother and child. And as long as the man does not break out of the framework of the child perception pattern, and learns to see a woman just a woman, not a mother, he will continue to feel sorry for himself.
An example of a woman who loves but does not regret, indicates weakness, but does not condemn, pushes for action, but does not control, requires courage, but not for herself, teaches honesty, but not in front of herself … is it capable? But everyone wants to be happy.
The man was weak, dependent and unhappy, and became – strong, free and happy. The woman raised a man and grew herself.
A woman helps a man to get rid of self-pity, and a man helps her to overcome her own pride – that is the meaning that relationships can carry if used as a basis for mutual development.
Why all these difficulties? Why not just live and have fun without making any effort? You can … as they say – “if you are not interested in the result.”
Overcoming these two fundamental problems – self-pity and pride – is the line that separates happiness from unhappiness. Without going through it, a person may be, at best, satisfied with his existence, but he will never be in tune with himself – he will always need external nourishment to feel normal.
Now we talked about the female side of the problem, but, of course, a lot here depends on the man. If he himself does not want to overcome his children’s behavior patterns, then no professional angel will help him. And if he wants, he doesn’t really need kicks either – enough light hints and tips.
The same thing happens when a man helps a woman to break free from the chains of his own problems. If she is ready for this, everything is simple; if not, it is useless and trying.